Author: voice

当门徒们体验到奉耶稣之名得胜的滋味，而欣喜不已时，耶稣要门徒们注意：制伏魔鬼只是一种短暂的恩赐，并不保证能获得天主的国；真正的喜悦与荣耀并非地上的成就，而是在天上，因为他们已蒙受天主拣选，并将他们的名字写在天上
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送给儿子的备忘录
我儿：写这备忘录给你，基于三个原则：
（一）人生福祸无常，谁也不知可以活多久，有些事情还是早一点说好。
（二）我是你的父亲，我不跟你说，没有人会跟你说这些事?
(三）这备忘录记载的，都是我经过惨痛失败得来的体验，可以为你的成长省不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好记住的事：
（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介意，在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。 至于那些对你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也请多防备一点，因为，每个人做每件事， 总有一个原因，他对你好，未必真的是因为喜欢你，请你务必搞清楚，而不必太快将对方看作真朋友。
（二）没有人是不可代替，没有东西是必须拥有。
看透了这一点，将来你身边的人不再要你，或许失去了世间上最爱的一切时，
也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今日你还在浪费着生命，明日会发觉生命已远离你了。
因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）世界上并没有最爱这回事，爱情只是一种霎时的感觉，而这感觉绝对会随时日、心境而改变。 如果你所谓的最爱离开你，请耐心地等候一下，让时日慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。> 不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育，但并不等于不用功读书，就一定可以成功。 你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器，可以白手兴家，但不可手无寸铁，谨记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样地，我也不会供养你的下半辈子，当你长大可以独立时，我的责任已经完结。> > 以后，你要坐巴士还是宾士，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求别人守信，你可以要求自己对人好，但不能期待人家对你好。 你怎样对人，并不代表人家就会怎样对你，如果看不透这一点，你只会徒增不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了十多二十年的六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三奖也没有中，这证明人要发达，
还是要努力工作才可以，世界上没有免费午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘分，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，都请好好珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论爱与不爱，都不会再见。
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　　Dear Emma:
　　Well if you are reading this, I guess I did not make it home and therefore, I was not able to remind you again of how much I love you.
　　I love you so much baby and I will always love you. Although I may not be here right now, take comfort in the fact that I am watching over you right now.
　　I am not gone and I will always be with you in spirit. I know this time must be hard for you but I also know how strong you are.
　　Never forget that God knew what was best for us before we were even born. Take comfort in that. This happened for a reason. Although you may not believe it now, you will one day.
　　I want you to know just how important you are to me. I could not ask for a more caring, beautiful and loving wife. The memories that we have shared over the last few years have been the best of my life. Although it may seem like my life was cut short,
　　I lived a life that most can only dream of. I married the perfect woman. I have a beautiful daughter that amazed me every day.
　　I even had two great dogs - at least most of the time. I couldn't ask for anything more. If you feel sad, just think back to the memories that we shared. Look at our daughter and how beautiful she is.
　　Be strong for her. Remind her about her Daddy and tell her that I loved her more than anything else in the world. Her birth was the best day of my life and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Her smile and laughter represent all that is good and beautiful in this world.
　　Tell her that Daddy is in heaven now and will watch over her and protect her every minute of every day. I love you Emma. But never be afraid to do what you need to do to be happy. It is so important that you continue to find happiness in your life. Although you may think this is impossible right now, have faith.
　　Much better times are coming. You and Kiley have a wonderful life ahead of you and I am so happy to have shared some of it with you.
　　I love you.
　　Your loving Husband,
　　Todd
Dear Kiley, My Sweetie:
　　Although you may not remember me, I want you to know how very much your Daddy loves you.
　　I left for Afghanistan when you were 9 months old.
　　Leaving you was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
　　You are so very special to me sweetie - you are truly a gift from God.
　　The best day of my life was the day you were born.
　　Every time I saw you smile my heart would just melt.
　　You were my sweetie - my life was not complete until you were born.
　　I am so sorry I will not be able to see you grow up.
　　But remember, your Daddy is not gone. I am in heaven now smiling down on you every day.
　　You are so very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom to take care of you.
　　Make sure you are good for her and help her out whenever you can.
　　Always remember to say your prayers at night and be thankful for all your many blessings.
　　Never forget how important and special you are to so many people.
　　We love you so very much. When you get older and start school, do your best and try to learn as much as you can about the world you live in.
　　Always be nice and caring to others and you will discover that the world will be nice to you.
　　But when things aren't going your way, never forget that God knows what is best for you and everything will work out in the end.
　　You have such a bright and beautiful future ahead of you.
　　Have fun. Enjoy it. And remember, your Daddy will always be proud of you and will always love you.
　　You are and will always be my sweetie.
　　With very much love,
　　Your Daddy

有一个小女孩每天都从家里走路去上学。一天早上天气不太好，云层渐渐变厚，到了下午时风吹得更急，不久开始有闪电、打雷、下大雨。小女孩的妈妈很担心，她担心小女孩会被打雷吓著，甚至被雷打到。雷雨下得愈来愈大，闪电像一把锐利的剑刺破天空，小女孩的妈妈赶紧开着她的车，沿着上学的路线去找小女孩，看到自己的小女儿一个人走在街上，却发现每次闪电时，她都停下脚步、抬头往上看、并露出微笑。
看了许久，妈妈终于忍不住叫住她的孩子，
问她说：「妹妹，妳在做什么啊？」
她说：「上帝刚才帮我照相，所以我要笑啊！」
沉思～
人们往往最容易犯的错就是：
用自己脑袋中的观念去解释别人眼中的事物，
其实有多少事情是只有一种理解途径的呢？
亲爱的朋友们，
当你正在用这样的方式解释你的身边发生的一切时，
你已经错过了多少美好的经历和心灵的体验。
试着放弃固著的思维模式，享受多重的人生吧。

1. 我希望当初我有勇气过自己真正想要的生活，而不是别人希望我过的生活。
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
这是所有后悔的事中最常听到的。
心理学上有个理论，较之那些我们做过的事，人们后悔的往往是那些没做的事。所以当人们在生命尽头往回看时，往往会发现有好多梦想应该实现，却没有实现。你的生活方式、你的工作、你的感情、你的伴侣，其实我们多少人过著的是别人希望你过的生活，而不是自己真正想要的生活——又可能，一直以来你把别人希望你过的生活当作是你想要的生活。
当你疾病缠身时，才发现其实自己应该而且可以放下很多顾虑追求你要的生活，似乎已经晚了一点。
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.
2. 我希望当初我没有花这么多精力在工作上。
I wish I didn't work so hard.
这是她照顾过的每一个男病人会说的话。因为工作，他们错过了关注孩子成长的乐趣，错过了爱人温暖的陪伴，这是他们最深的后悔与愧疚。其实对于现在的职业女性来说，这也将成为一个问题。
如果把你的生活变简单些，你也许会发现自己在做很多你以为你需要做其实不需要你做的事。腾出那些事占的空间，可能你会过得开心一点。
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3. 我希望当初我能有勇气表达我的感受。
I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
太多的人压抑自己的感受与想法，只是为了「天下太平」，不与别人产生矛盾。渐渐他们就成了中庸之辈，无法成为他们可以成为的自己。其实，有很多疾病与长期压抑愤怒与消极情绪有关。
只是为了「天下太平」，不与别人产生矛盾。渐渐他们就成了中庸之辈，无法成为他们可以成为的自己。其实，有很多疾病与长期压抑愤怒与消极情绪有关。
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4. 我希望当初我能和朋友保持联系。
I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
老朋友的好，我们总要到自己有事了的时候才会想到。
多少人因为自己忙碌的生活忽略了朋友忽略了曾经闪亮的友情。很多人临终前终于放下钱、放下权，却放不下心中的情感与牵挂。朋友也好，爱人也罢，其实生命最后的日子里，他们才是我们最深的惦念。
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5. 我希望当初我能让自己活过开心点。
I wish that I had let myself be happier.
也许有点出乎意料，但这一条也在前5之中。很多人直到生命的最后才发现，「快乐是选择」。
他们在自己既定习惯和生活方式中太久了，习惯了掩饰，习惯了伪装，习惯了在人前堆起笑脸。就像五月天的那首歌，「你不是真正的快乐，你的笑只是你给的保护色」。他们以为是生活让他们不快乐，其实是他们自己让自己不快乐了。
是只有临终的时候才会发现，别人怎么看你又有什么关系呢，傻也好，怪也罢，能有真心的笑，比什么都值得。
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.
Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Author:
Bronnie Ware

Once I was in Victoria, and I saw a very large house. They told me it was a bank, and that the white men place their money there to be taken care of, and by and by, they got it back, with interest.
We are Indians, and we have no such bank; but when we have plenty of money or blankets, we give them away to other chiefs and people, and by and by, they return them, with interest, and our hearts feel good. Our way of giving is our bank.
Maquinna
Nootka Indian Chief

生命中的一扇 [ 门 ] 关起来的时候，
另一扇新的 [ 门 ] 在我面前打开。
在这门槛上停留片刻，
明白你所做的舍弃，
是为获得最好的……
──M.E. Miro

对的时间，遇见对的人，是一生幸福。 对的时间，遇见错的人，是一场心伤。
错的时间，遇见错的人，是一段荒唐。 错的时间，遇见对的人，是一生叹息。