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送給兒子的備忘錄
我兒:寫這備忘錄給你,基於三個原則:
(一)人生福禍無常,誰也不知可以活多久,有些事情還是早一點說好。

(二)我是你的父親,我不跟你說,沒有人會跟你說這些事?

(三)這備忘錄記載的,都是我經過慘痛失敗得來的體驗,可以為你的成長省不少冤枉路。

以下,便是你在人生中要好好記住的事:

(一)對你不好的人,你不要太介意,在你一生中,沒有人有義務要對你好,除了我和你媽媽。 至於那些對你好的人,你除了要珍惜、感恩外,也請多防備一點,因為,每個人做每件事, 總有一個原因,他對你好,未必真的是因為喜歡你,請你務必搞清楚,而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。

(二)沒有人是不可代替,沒有東西是必須擁有。
看透了這一點,將來你身邊的人不再要你,或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時,
也應該明白,這並不是什麼大不了的事。

(三)生命是短暫的,今日你還在浪費著生命,明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。
因此,愈早珍惜生命,你享受生命的日子也愈多,與其盼望長壽,倒不如早點享受。

(四)世界上並沒有最愛這回事,愛情只是一種霎時的感覺,而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。 如果你所謂的最愛離開你,請耐心地等候一下,讓時日慢慢沖洗,讓心靈慢慢沉澱,你的苦就會慢慢淡化。> 不要過分憧憬愛情的美,不要過分誇大失戀的悲。

(五)雖然很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育,但並不等於不用功讀書,就一定可以成功。 你學到的知識,就是你擁有的武器,可以白手興家,但不可手無寸鐵,謹記!

(六)我不會要求你供養我下半輩子,同樣地,我也不會供養你的下半輩子,當你長大可以獨立時,我的責任已經完結。> > 以後,你要坐巴士還是賓士,吃魚翅還是粉絲,都要自己負責。

(七)你可以要求自己守信,但不能要求別人守信,你可以要求自己對人好,但不能期待人家對你好。 你怎樣對人,並不代表人家就會怎樣對你,如果看不透這一點,你只會徒增不必要的煩惱。

(八)我買了十多二十年的六合彩,還是一窮二白,連三獎也沒有中,這證明人要發達,
還是要努力工作才可以,世界上沒有免費午餐。

(九)親人只有一次的緣分,無論這輩子我和你會相處多久,都請好好珍惜共聚的時光,下輩子,無論愛與不愛,都不會再見。

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  Dear Emma:
  Well if you are reading this, I guess I did not make it home and therefore, I was not able to remind you again of how much I love you.
  I love you so much baby and I will always love you. Although I may not be here right now, take comfort in the fact that I am watching over you right now.
  I am not gone and I will always be with you in spirit. I know this time must be hard for you but I also know how strong you are.
  Never forget that God knew what was best for us before we were even born. Take comfort in that. This happened for a reason. Although you may not believe it now, you will one day.
  I want you to know just how important you are to me. I could not ask for a more caring, beautiful and loving wife. The memories that we have shared over the last few years have been the best of my life. Although it may seem like my life was cut short,
  I lived a life that most can only dream of. I married the perfect woman. I have a beautiful daughter that amazed me every day.
  I even had two great dogs - at least most of the time. I couldn't ask for anything more. If you feel sad, just think back to the memories that we shared. Look at our daughter and how beautiful she is.
  Be strong for her. Remind her about her Daddy and tell her that I loved her more than anything else in the world. Her birth was the best day of my life and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Her smile and laughter represent all that is good and beautiful in this world.
  Tell her that Daddy is in heaven now and will watch over her and protect her every minute of every day. I love you Emma. But never be afraid to do what you need to do to be happy. It is so important that you continue to find happiness in your life. Although you may think this is impossible right now, have faith.
  Much better times are coming. You and Kiley have a wonderful life ahead of you and I am so happy to have shared some of it with you.
  I love you.
  Your loving Husband,
  Todd

Dear Kiley, My Sweetie:
  Although you may not remember me, I want you to know how very much your Daddy loves you.
  I left for Afghanistan when you were 9 months old.
  Leaving you was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
  You are so very special to me sweetie - you are truly a gift from God.
  The best day of my life was the day you were born.
  Every time I saw you smile my heart would just melt.
  You were my sweetie - my life was not complete until you were born.
  I am so sorry I will not be able to see you grow up.
  But remember, your Daddy is not gone. I am in heaven now smiling down on you every day.
  You are so very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom to take care of you.
  Make sure you are good for her and help her out whenever you can.
  Always remember to say your prayers at night and be thankful for all your many blessings.
  Never forget how important and special you are to so many people.
  We love you so very much. When you get older and start school, do your best and try to learn as much as you can about the world you live in.
  Always be nice and caring to others and you will discover that the world will be nice to you.
  But when things aren't going your way, never forget that God knows what is best for you and everything will work out in the end.
  You have such a bright and beautiful future ahead of you.
  Have fun. Enjoy it. And remember, your Daddy will always be proud of you and will always love you.
  You are and will always be my sweetie.
  With very much love,
  Your Daddy

有一個小女孩每天都從家裏走路去上學。一天早上天氣不太好,雲層漸漸變厚,到了下午時風吹得更急,不久開始有閃電、打雷、下大雨。小女孩的媽媽很擔心,她擔心小女孩會被打雷嚇著,甚至被雷打到。雷雨下得愈來愈大,閃電像一把銳利的劍刺破天空,小女孩的媽媽趕緊開著她的車,沿著上學的路線去找小女孩,看到自己的小女兒一個人走在街上,卻發現每次閃電時,她都停下腳步、抬頭往上看、並露出微笑。
看了許久,媽媽終於忍不住叫住她的孩子,
問她說:「妹妹,妳在做什麼啊?」
她說:「上帝剛才幫我照相,所以我要笑啊!」

沉思~
人們往往最容易犯的錯就是:
用自己腦袋中的觀念去解釋別人眼中的事物,
其實有多少事情是只有一種理解途徑的呢?
親愛的朋友們,
當你正在用這樣的方式解釋你的身邊發生的一切時,
你已經錯過了多少美好的經歷和心靈的體驗。
試著放棄固著的思維模式,享受多重的人生吧。