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送给儿子的备忘录
我儿:写这备忘录给你,基于三个原则:
(一)人生福祸无常,谁也不知可以活多久,有些事情还是早一点说好。

(二)我是你的父亲,我不跟你说,没有人会跟你说这些事?

(三)这备忘录记载的,都是我经过惨痛失败得来的体验,可以为你的成长省不少冤枉路。

以下,便是你在人生中要好好记住的事:

(一)对你不好的人,你不要太介意,在你一生中,没有人有义务要对你好,除了我和你妈妈。 至于那些对你好的人,你除了要珍惜、感恩外,也请多防备一点,因为,每个人做每件事, 总有一个原因,他对你好,未必真的是因为喜欢你,请你务必搞清楚,而不必太快将对方看作真朋友。

(二)没有人是不可代替,没有东西是必须拥有。
看透了这一点,将来你身边的人不再要你,或许失去了世间上最爱的一切时,
也应该明白,这并不是什么大不了的事。

(三)生命是短暂的,今日你还在浪费着生命,明日会发觉生命已远离你了。
因此,愈早珍惜生命,你享受生命的日子也愈多,与其盼望长寿,倒不如早点享受。

(四)世界上并没有最爱这回事,爱情只是一种霎时的感觉,而这感觉绝对会随时日、心境而改变。 如果你所谓的最爱离开你,请耐心地等候一下,让时日慢慢冲洗,让心灵慢慢沉淀,你的苦就会慢慢淡化。> 不要过分憧憬爱情的美,不要过分夸大失恋的悲。

(五)虽然很多有成就的人士都没有受过很多教育,但并不等于不用功读书,就一定可以成功。 你学到的知识,就是你拥有的武器,可以白手兴家,但不可手无寸铁,谨记!

(六)我不会要求你供养我下半辈子,同样地,我也不会供养你的下半辈子,当你长大可以独立时,我的责任已经完结。> > 以后,你要坐巴士还是宾士,吃鱼翅还是粉丝,都要自己负责。

(七)你可以要求自己守信,但不能要求别人守信,你可以要求自己对人好,但不能期待人家对你好。 你怎样对人,并不代表人家就会怎样对你,如果看不透这一点,你只会徒增不必要的烦恼。

(八)我买了十多二十年的六合彩,还是一穷二白,连三奖也没有中,这证明人要发达,
还是要努力工作才可以,世界上没有免费午餐。

(九)亲人只有一次的缘分,无论这辈子我和你会相处多久,都请好好珍惜共聚的时光,下辈子,无论爱与不爱,都不会再见。

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  Dear Emma:
  Well if you are reading this, I guess I did not make it home and therefore, I was not able to remind you again of how much I love you.
  I love you so much baby and I will always love you. Although I may not be here right now, take comfort in the fact that I am watching over you right now.
  I am not gone and I will always be with you in spirit. I know this time must be hard for you but I also know how strong you are.
  Never forget that God knew what was best for us before we were even born. Take comfort in that. This happened for a reason. Although you may not believe it now, you will one day.
  I want you to know just how important you are to me. I could not ask for a more caring, beautiful and loving wife. The memories that we have shared over the last few years have been the best of my life. Although it may seem like my life was cut short,
  I lived a life that most can only dream of. I married the perfect woman. I have a beautiful daughter that amazed me every day.
  I even had two great dogs - at least most of the time. I couldn't ask for anything more. If you feel sad, just think back to the memories that we shared. Look at our daughter and how beautiful she is.
  Be strong for her. Remind her about her Daddy and tell her that I loved her more than anything else in the world. Her birth was the best day of my life and she was the best thing that ever happened to me. Her smile and laughter represent all that is good and beautiful in this world.
  Tell her that Daddy is in heaven now and will watch over her and protect her every minute of every day. I love you Emma. But never be afraid to do what you need to do to be happy. It is so important that you continue to find happiness in your life. Although you may think this is impossible right now, have faith.
  Much better times are coming. You and Kiley have a wonderful life ahead of you and I am so happy to have shared some of it with you.
  I love you.
  Your loving Husband,
  Todd

Dear Kiley, My Sweetie:
  Although you may not remember me, I want you to know how very much your Daddy loves you.
  I left for Afghanistan when you were 9 months old.
  Leaving you was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.
  You are so very special to me sweetie - you are truly a gift from God.
  The best day of my life was the day you were born.
  Every time I saw you smile my heart would just melt.
  You were my sweetie - my life was not complete until you were born.
  I am so sorry I will not be able to see you grow up.
  But remember, your Daddy is not gone. I am in heaven now smiling down on you every day.
  You are so very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom to take care of you.
  Make sure you are good for her and help her out whenever you can.
  Always remember to say your prayers at night and be thankful for all your many blessings.
  Never forget how important and special you are to so many people.
  We love you so very much. When you get older and start school, do your best and try to learn as much as you can about the world you live in.
  Always be nice and caring to others and you will discover that the world will be nice to you.
  But when things aren't going your way, never forget that God knows what is best for you and everything will work out in the end.
  You have such a bright and beautiful future ahead of you.
  Have fun. Enjoy it. And remember, your Daddy will always be proud of you and will always love you.
  You are and will always be my sweetie.
  With very much love,
  Your Daddy

有一个小女孩每天都从家里走路去上学。一天早上天气不太好,云层渐渐变厚,到了下午时风吹得更急,不久开始有闪电、打雷、下大雨。小女孩的妈妈很担心,她担心小女孩会被打雷吓著,甚至被雷打到。雷雨下得愈来愈大,闪电像一把锐利的剑刺破天空,小女孩的妈妈赶紧开着她的车,沿着上学的路线去找小女孩,看到自己的小女儿一个人走在街上,却发现每次闪电时,她都停下脚步、抬头往上看、并露出微笑。
看了许久,妈妈终于忍不住叫住她的孩子,
问她说:「妹妹,妳在做什么啊?」
她说:「上帝刚才帮我照相,所以我要笑啊!」

沉思~
人们往往最容易犯的错就是:
用自己脑袋中的观念去解释别人眼中的事物,
其实有多少事情是只有一种理解途径的呢?
亲爱的朋友们,
当你正在用这样的方式解释你的身边发生的一切时,
你已经错过了多少美好的经历和心灵的体验。
试着放弃固著的思维模式,享受多重的人生吧。